Love This Girl

I dig this title. It sounds Neanderthal (as in club swinging and knuckle dragging). The image is comical, but the role of the man as protector was important. Is it still?

I saw Mel Gibson’s Apocalypto the other day. In it there is a Mayan man that must surpass deathly challenges in order to save his small family. This is all pretty typical of Mel Gibson: tough guys, who’ll give life-and-limb for their lovers and children. Every single Gibson movie has this theme in some fashion. I know women love it too. So man as protector is still a strong root of attraction.

Does this mean I have to fight others to impress my woman? No. The world has changed. “Protection” is just a limb on the tree of “provider”. She’ll deliver herself entirely if you provide for her physical, emotional and mental needs. Protector and provider go hand-in-hand.

Easy there Lancelot. It ain’t so easy as mindlessly invading her independence. She wants a protector and provider under certain circumstances. Don’t go around doing everything for her, it’s annoying.

Back to sex appeal and protection. She’ll love it if you protect her. I don’t want you to die, so here are some times when it works (and when it doesn’t).

Flight when…

• getting robbed (unless you have a bigger gun).
• overcharged by a couple of dollars at a restaurant. Cheap is not sexy.
• road-ragers target you. You watch reality TV, you’ve seen the videos.
• you are out-numbered.

Fight when…

• defending her honor. Even if you lose she’ll love you.
• mistreated by a service provider, company, etc. When she has a battle, step in as the big gun. It’s us against them baby!
• injustice has occurred. Use your brain on this one.

Seriously though, don’t die, and don’t listen to a guy that spends most of his day behind a computer (that’s me).

More reading:

• Is it Really so Bad to Want a Man - “Simply put, the boys are supposed to take care of the girls.”
• The Real Reason Good Girls Fall for Bad Guys
• The Dangers of Women Earning More then Their Men - some of us fall into this category. Is it that bad?