Don’t, unless you are ready. Getting ready is the hard part. Here are some things to consider before you ask.
Easy on the expectations.
It doesn’t matter if she has been with 1 or 100, you almost never will like what you hear. So I say start high. Imagine something scary. I won’t get into detail here, as each girl has different past experiences. For the guys dating nuns, well, you can just stop reading now. If your girlfriend or wife was a porn star, well raise them (or drop depending on your outlook).
Your reaction will affect her.
She is important to you, so don’t hurt her. This is a delicate topic for women. Even though this is the 21st century, there are still high expectations for women and their sexual behavior. Avoid words and reactions that would make her feel trashy or common. If you even feel like you don’t like the idea of her past, reconsider your decision. After all, its the past. Neither of you can change it. Get over it.
Your reaction will also affect her trust in you. If you are shocked and freak out, she definitely won’t tell you as much next time. Thats worse, because you’ll always be scared that she is sugar coating or telling a white lie or two. Of course, if you can’t handle it, maybe it is better that she lie.
What questions to ask
Don’t read this list. It might be a bit graphic if you have an unwieldy imagination.
- How many
- Body types (please let them all be fat or weak)
- Size (you know what I’m referring too)
- Incomes
- Explicit detail (as in, a graphic explanation)
- Comparisons (am I better)
Some guys can handle this stuff and even get-off on it. Most will not.
Why do you need to know?
This is the best question to ask yourself. What does it mean to your future with her? Will you be closer if you know? Will you think about her past each time you touch her? Most of the time it will do absolutely nothing for you. It’s literally a Pandora’s box not worth troubling with.
Often your curiosity is driven by an insecurity. You want to be the “end-all, be-all” for her. You want her to think you are the greatest man that ever walked this earth. You want to think no man has ever pleasured her like you.
You worship her, and you want her to worship at the alter of your libido!
Fucking vs. Love Sex
Evolution dictates that you do everything in your power to keep her sexually happy. After all, that will keep her from wandering right? Sex is important, but any woman will tell you that the emotional connections made during intimacy are number one. The pleasure factor of a good fuck pales compared to the intense pleasure that comes with a healthy stew of love and sex.
This is why you are number one. She loves you and only wants you. All of the guys in her past put together will never have that. Everything else you have to offer is just icing on the cake.